By far, talking of the third life style, I haven’t really understood what it is. I think the first life style is nothing to eat and to wear in my young time. It’s very hard and bitter. The second is in this several years. The society and the technology both improved very fast. In the past, the food is not enough to eat. But we don’t know how to dispose it now.I never eat an apple when I was young. Now, at home, there’re several cases of apples. This may be the second life style. Then what is the third one? Beforetime the state of having nothing is the first style. When we have abundant things, it becomes the second one. Then there’re more spare times, and maybe this is the third one. Now we can eat enough, and then ponder, ponder where can go.
In order to explain the third life style, I want to look back the first one firstly. The first life style influenced all the life of our generation. In China, all the people as old as me had a rough time, and food and clothes not enough was a normal phenomenon. Maybe most of the quadragenarian(四十多岁的) people had these experiences. I remember well that there is often no food to eat. Everybody’s concerned thing is the food problem. There is nobody think anything else. In our hometown, if there’s 7 months food in a year, it was a fine time. So the chief problem is to live. That time in my family there were several kids and the life is so hard. It’s difficult to live on, so my father persuaded my mother to give my third sister who was only several months to other person, because it’s the most essential thing to live at that time.
In think the life of this period influenced my character. I get a sonsy character in the time when I live in country. Then I went to Nanjing for learning, and I suddenly didn’t want to talk. I thought all the time and now I often read books about this aspect. How the character of the people get? Freudian said that the character is relate to the experience. So I recollected the first time I got in Nanjing. I took two blue cotton trousers which wore a long time and two large pants. In the class there were 40 students, and thirty-one were girls. So I was afraid that if my trousers were worn out and I would be laughed at. I often touched my trousers in order to make sure they were not worn out. Every time I touched it I felt that it became thinner. I studied and lived in this pressure that time. I think it’s the reason which made me get that character.
Thus is the first life style.
After I graduated from university, I could get 46 Yuan wage every month and 8 Yuan subsidy for outgoing. But, in this year, my two sisters got entrance for the universities one by one. I divided my wage into three and sent two for them. But how could I live? I have said that living is the most essential need. So I went to Shenzhen. Because I worked hard, I got more wage. Then China became affluence quickly, and there’re more things which were too many to manage.
Once I went to Guangzhou and saw the New Century Building. It was said that all the walls in the building were pasted by gold papers. I thought that even you had so many money, you couldn’t paste gold papers on the walls. But why he did that? The reason is that there’s more spare times and nothing to do.
So I always think that what life style should we to pursue, when we get satisfaction in matter life. I feel that the most important thing is the relationship of the people. When the others aren’t happy, we should help him to be happy as possible as we can. But first we must make ourselves be happy. If you aren’t happy and make the face so pained, how can you make the others be happy? I think there is no confliction in them. Besides that, I think our life should get into a simplification. Simpleness is a very essential thing, and the zen ideology also emphasize this point. The zen influences more tremendous to China from of old.
The so called “See you heart directly, think the things with no ponder”is also this theory. Whatever you think, show them out. I think this should be the third life style we talk.