A female student in business school in my university committed suicide a month ago. But last night it stood in the spotlight again in our QQ group where students talked about it heatedly. Some sighed that it was really a pity because a blossoming life was terminated so early. But some showed no sympathy on the girl because she died of suicide instead of unavoidable accidents. In all everyone holds different standpoints. Some students asked for my opinion, but I simply sent a picture and kept silent.
Yes, I just wanted to keep silent. Maybe it countered to my usual habits, because all of my friends and acquaintances know that I am a talkative and eloquent guy who can never stop once opening my mouth. But in the QQ group or some other public places, I am reluctant to make comments on some controversial issues relevant to some sensitive aspects like ethics or so. Why? The reason is less than simple. It is because I feel concerned even horrified about our internet. I am fearing that if I say something wrong, I will hit the headline of newspaper and become a so-called “celebrity”. Take the instance of the suicide mentioned above. If I make an improper comment on this event, some malicious net friends may attack me even search every piece of information about me, then they will exaggerate my information and blacken my image. Then I really cannot figure out how to live the rest of my life peacefully. Seeing all this, maybe you will laugh at my over-concern and over-anxiety, however, it is quite reasonable.
With the rocketing development of our internet, it is no difficult thing to become a well-known figure from an ordinary one. Over-night fame has become a common phenomenon in our modern society. Doubtlessly, the development of internet brings about more transparency of information, which greatly elevates the public’s right for information and their participation in social affairs. It also exerts the power to eliminate the rough while maintaining the essence, erasing the fake while maintaining the true. For example, in 2007, the incident of South China Tiger had made an ordinary farmer, Zhou Zhenglong, the focus of the public, who claimed to have risked his life to take the photos of the south china tiger. His life met a u-turn because of this event. Were the pictures real? Were the south china tiger living in the forest around Zhou’s home? An amazing variety of professors and scholars in different fields, such as botanist, biologist, geologist, physicist and so on, conducted a precise study on the pictures. After numerous accurate study, they all came to the conclusion that the tiger in the picture was fake. All of a sudden, it became a heated topic on every forum. More and more people joined the study and it even shocked the professors in America. All people required our National Forestry Bureau to conduct a final identification. At last, the truth of the incident emerged. The tiger in the pictures are fake, and Zhou was put in jail at the accusation of fraud. But what truth else can we reveal behind it? Why an extremely undereducated farmer who even did not finish primary school knew to buy a digital camera to photo a tiger from the proper angle and under the proper light? Only this point can rouse our doubt immediately. It is not difficult to seek out the organization which backed up the farmer to fool the public with the fake tiger pictures as long as we keep track of the news all the way. Farmer Zhou was merely a vehicle used to reach their conspiracy. This event fully demonstrated the great power of the internet that can dig out the truth for a mysterious event in a short time.
However, it may not be a good thing if we know too much truth. The net , to some extent, is initially meant to provide a platform for us to communicate information and opinions, which can render us better understand others and meantime improve our right to speak. Whatever opinions others hold, we should have our own but not attack others’. Through our meditation, our can come up with our rational points. Whereas, in the real world, we always cannot bear any divergence. When we realize some point that is converse to the mainstream, we may rise and attack the opinion holder fiercely. More unacceptably, many net friends constantly reveal others’ privacy and further overstated the truth. An average person can gain a giant fame overnight through the net, but this fame may be beyond his ability to bear, then the consequence is doomed to be tragic and miserable.
The development of internet not only make us more cautious to behave online, but also make the celebrities’ lives more constrained. As is universally acknowledged, some celebrities like stars, singer or so, have already been dogged by a wealth of journalist and fans. They cannot make any mistake in life, or their fame may be gone overnight. For example, if a female star is found to quarrel with her mother-in-law, then whatever the truth is, whether she is right or wrong, various magazines and newspapers as well as the forums online may fully expose how irascible and disobedient she is. The worse the image of the star is, the more readers the publication will reach, and the more benefits the publisher can obtain. Nonetheless, what I want to stress is that celebrities are also human beings and have their own private lives. It is a common saying that to make mistake is human and no one is perfect. However, we do not hold such a philosophy towards celebrities. Instead, we require them to be perfect in all respects. A person that becomes famous is sure to have something superior than others. And as long as he can maintain his strength and does not do anything immoral and illegal, they can choose their own way to live and we should not interfere and attack them. Life style and habits vary from person to person, just like you love banana while I like apples, you love coca-cola while I love juice. It is unnecessary for us to demand the celebrities to follow our own pattern of life. Or it is rather unfair to them! Then I believe no one wants to become famous.
木秀于林，风必摧之。然而，不能抵挡大风袭击的人“巨木”， 也不能称之为“秀木”。所有有时我想，或许冥冥之中，许多成功之士要想永远立于不败之地，首先心理就要“秀”，要有一种“宠辱不惊，闲看庭前花开花落；去留无意，漫随天外云卷云舒”的豁达心境。只有这样，才可以笑看风云，指点江山，激扬文字，活出精彩。现代社会，锦上添花的人多，你一成功，众人附喝；落井下石的人也多，你一出问题， 的有猪朋狗友均离你而去；唯独雪中送炭的人少。在你落魄的时候，一直地支持帮助你，这样的人才可以成为深交。网络又何尝不是如此呢？在你成名之时，大家为你添砖加瓦；在你出现生活的瑕疵时，大家都一沉百踏。唯一不同的，网络在你极度困难时，它也为你雪中送炭。很多身患绝症的病人正是通过网络筹到治疗的费用。这是一个典型的例子。
A tree that is tallest among all may call the attack of the wind. However, if a sky-high tree cannot resist the attack from the wind, then it cannot be called a good tree. Therefore, sometimes I think that if you want to succeed and keep your status, you have to be super psychologically first, and you should have a sense of generosity that can give you composure just as you can get when enjoying the blooming and fading of the flowers in your yard and appreciating the coming and going of the clouds in the sky. Only by doing so can you confront everything and live to your fullest with satisfactory smile. In modern society, there are many people who can add “better” to “good”. Once you succeed, everyone is applauding for you. There are also many people who add “worse” to “bad”. If you are lying at the bottom of life, your fair weather friends will leave you alone without a glance back. There are few people who can send you the coal when you are in icy snow.
Altogether, we should look before we leap, then we can sidewalk a lot of unnecessary troubles, especially in the cyber world.